Waiting to become a parent can be a long heart-breaking journey, especially for those who are struggling with infertility issues. Infertility is such a difficult process to come to terms with and can often leave people feeling isolated, alone and full of grief.
In this Blog, we look at some of the ways on how you can start to accept and cope with infertility.
Accept Your Feelings
Coming to terms with infertility is an extremely difficult emotional journey. Accepting how you are feeling is important rather than pushing them to the back of your mind and pretending you are feeling OK. It is completely natural to feel feelings of grief and loss when struggling with infertility, especially when close friends and family are able to have a child naturally.
Accepting how you feel is part of self-care and if these feelings are not accepted and processed, it can lead to emotional distress and other side effects. It is important to try and accept how you are feeling so you can move forward in a positive way.
Be Honest With Your Partner
Living with infertility can result in feelings of anger and resentment when you are unable to conceive naturally together. These feelings are completely normal, but it’s important as a couple you try to overcome them so you can both remain strong throughout your fertility journey.
Sharing your feelings with each other in a healthy and positive way will help you feel that you are not completely alone as your partner is the one person who will be there for you and knows you better than anyone else. It’s so important to discuss your feelings in a positive and healthy way so you can both move forward and accept how you are feeling.
Don’t Blame Yourself
Accepting and trying to cope with infertility is a hard thing to do, but it’s so important that you don’t blame yourself as you try and come to terms with how you are feeling. Infertility is never anyone’s fault, as difficulty conceiving naturally is often complex and beyond our control.
Remembering and realising infertility is not your fault will allow you to move forward in a positive way on your fertility journey to parenthood.
Join Support Groups
Coping with infertility can be an emotional rollercoaster, so it can be beneficial to seek support from people who can understand how you are feeling. Left unspoken, coping with infertility can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
Talking to others who are all experiencing the same feelings can often really help in a positive and encouraging way before, during and after your infertility journey.
Take Care of Yourself
Coming to terms with trying to cope with infertility can seem daunting and overwhelming, but whilst you try and process how you are feeling, it’s so important that you focus on taking care of yourself.
The more positive and happier you feel, the easier coping with infertility will be. Even when you are feeling extreme bouts of sadness, its important that you take some time for yourself in whatever way that makes you feel happy and positive again.
Seek Professional Support
Overcoming infertility is the first step towards reaching your goal of becoming a parent. If you are really struggling to cope with infertility then consider speaking with a Fertility Counsellor. Part of the difficulty of coming to terms with infertility is the feeling of helplessness and not knowing what to do next.
Trying to cope with infertility is extremely hard and there is no shame in reaching out for help and support if you are finding it hard to come to terms with how you are feeling. Many professionals will be able to help you which will leave you feeling more positive and hopeful for the future.