Waiting to become a parent can be a long heart-breaking journey, especially for those who are struggling to conceive as it is such a difficult process to come to terms with and can often leave people feeling isolated, alone, and full of grief.
In this Blog, we look at some of the ways on how you can start to accept and cope with struggling to conceive.
Accept Your Feelings
Coming to terms with struggling to conceive is an extremely difficult emotional journey. Accepting how you are feeling is important rather than pushing them to the back of your mind and pretending you are feeling OK. It is completely natural to feel feelings of grief and loss whilst struggling to conceive, especially when close friends and family have no problem conceiving. Accepting how you feel is part of self-care as if these feelings are not accepted and processed, it can lead to emotional distress. It is important to try and accept how you are feeling so you can move forward in a positive way.
Be Honest With Your Partner
Struggling to conceive can result in feelings of anger and resentment when you are unable to conceive naturally together. These feelings are completely normal, but it’s important as a couple you try to overcome them so you can both remain strong throughout your fertility journey. Sharing your feelings with each other in a healthy and positive way will help you feel that you are not completely alone as your partner is the one person who will be there for you and knows you better than anyone else. It is so important to discuss your feelings in a positive and healthy way so you can both move forward and accept how you are feeling.
Don’t Blame Yourself
Accepting and trying to cope with struggling to conceive is an extremely hard thing to do. Therefore, it is so important that you don’t blame yourself as you try and come to terms with how you are feeling. Try to remember, this is not your fault, as difficulty conceiving naturally is often complex and beyond our control. Remembering and realising that struggling to conceive is not your fault will allow you to move forward in a positive way on your fertility journey to parenthood.
Join Support Groups
Coping with struggling to conceive can be an emotional rollercoaster, so it can be beneficial to seek support from people who can understand how you are feeling. Left unspoken, this can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
Talking to others who are all experiencing the same feelings can often really help in a positive and encouraging way.
Take Care of Yourself
Coming to terms with struggling to conceive can seem daunting and overwhelming, but whilst you try and process how you are feeling, it’s so important that you focus on taking care of yourself. The more positive and happier you feel, the easier it will feel to cope. Even when you are feeling extreme bouts of sadness, it’s important that you take some time for yourself in whatever way that makes you feel happy and positive again.
Seek Professional Support
Overcoming struggling to conceive is the first step towards reaching your goal of becoming a parent. If you are really struggling to cope with how you feel, then consider speaking with a Fertility Counsellor or attending a Fertility Wellness Retreat. Part of the difficulty in coming to terms with struggling to conceive is the feeling of helplessness and not knowing what to do next. There is no shame in reaching out for help and support if you are finding it hard to come to terms with how you are feeling. Many professionals will be able to help you which will leave you feeling more positive and hopeful for the future.
